tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post4114042179663592140..comments2023-10-10T03:23:44.471-05:00Comments on SHADDAP!: SHADDAP!Aunt Messyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07424781871244170075noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-15444053283500494112009-12-31T14:37:16.802-06:002009-12-31T14:37:16.802-06:00iamsmr:
I think they DO translate to the same th...iamsmr: <br /><br />I think they DO translate to the same thing. In interracial marriages there are frequently differences in culture that can seem insurmountable, and there are always family members on both sides that are willing to be miserable about it. I have to say that whenever I see family sticking their nose in, the couple in question is even MORE committed and MORE likely to stay together than anyone else. <br /><br />As for religion, the LW stated that she does not take religion as seriously as her parents do. If I had to guess, I'd say that the only time she ever goes to services is when she's with her parents. There is therefore no problem at all with the relationship between her and her atheist boyfriend. <br /><br />The question is one of simple etiquette. He accepted the invitation knowing what it entailed. If he REALLY couldn't bring himself to step inside a church, then he should have declined the invitation and no one would have thought twice about it. The girl should have reminded him of this, he could have gone along and listened to the music and the world would, as usual, keep rotating. <br /><br />I know many, many couples who married outside their religions. The most harmonious teach the children about BOTH and let the kids choose. Those parents do not judge, do not force anything and accept their children's choices. It works, and BECAUSE of people like you passing judgment, they make their relationship work to spite the idiots who tell them they're "wrong" in some way.Aunt Messyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07424781871244170075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-50357001804052402182009-12-31T06:35:04.190-06:002009-12-31T06:35:04.190-06:00Interracial relationships and a religious-atheist ...Interracial relationships and a religious-atheist relationships aren't the same thing. You aren't born religious (you can be born into a certain religion, but not religious). You can be brought up/educated religious, but after that, it's a choice you make (or renew, or rethink) as an adult, and it usually expresses itself in terms of values and goals (important things to have in common in a lasting relationship, no?).<br /><br />When you have a person whose religious beliefs translate into action in their everyday life (important family tradition of going to church on holidays, probably went to Sunday school, etc.)- well, you could probably still make it work with someone who believes differently (everyone has differences of opinion). The problems come in when: 1. the atheist partner doesn't respect the religious partner's traditions ("I'd rather offend your whole family than set foot in a church"); 2. What happens when they have kids (as I assume a good Christian girl would want to at some point), and she wants to bring them up Christian? If he's atheist enough to refuse to set foot in a church service, why would he agree to let his kids be brainwashed into believing in superstitions and a big old man in the sky who's always watching you?<br /><br />Bottom line: the more important each partner's religious beliefs are to them, the more important religious compatibility becomes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-20250850075958770752009-12-26T13:48:42.844-06:002009-12-26T13:48:42.844-06:00Messy, what a neat pix! It looks like they painte...Messy, what a neat pix! It looks like they painted the ceiling blue after they put the light in? What amazing contrast the pealing paint and the lamp lasting forever make....Katihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05645682203535768013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-41708920185861917762009-12-21T17:47:18.204-06:002009-12-21T17:47:18.204-06:00"Beshit." My favorite new verb!"Beshit." My favorite new verb!vyrequehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11767381969123374887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-11830841249875967822009-12-20T20:23:18.874-06:002009-12-20T20:23:18.874-06:00Messy,
Can't agree with you more on the poop, ...Messy,<br />Can't agree with you more on the poop, tho Schuyler is right about the difference between breast/formula excrescence. Solids bring a whole new horror, but of course by the time these new parents add solids, their babies will be crawling to the toilet themselves to do their business, right?<br /><br />My breast-fed boy had a terrible rash when he was about 5 mos old (turned out to be mild excema), so at one point, I was advised to leave him diaperless as much as possible. What a DEBACLE!! It really does have a way of getting EVERYWHERE, and Babies have a talent of splashing and splooshing, or simply getting it on a hand and heading that hand directly to the mouth.<br /><br />Any time he 'went' without a diaper, it was a challenge, because we have 1. a baby covered in squashy poo, and 2. surface or (more likely) surfaceS covered with poo. One can NOT clean it all at the same time, so, either one partner cleans the baby (a bath) and the other cleans the stuff, or the stuff has to stay pooish until baby is clean and dry and safely placed. Of course, by the time the sheets are stripped and new ones placed, Baby is wet or pooish again. Twins? NFW.<br /><br />In order for the Elimination Communication to work even a little, it is the parent who must be painstakingly trained. As in "how many minutes exactly after starting a meal does baby tend to eliminate?" and, "At what times of the night does baby tend to let go?" In addition to this note taking (which one has SO much time to do), the parents would need to basically sit and stare at the baby every minute of every day even after the "signs" become clear. This means no break to pee or shower, cook, or wash the mountains of laundry that are sure to accumulate, even WITH diapers. I almost feel sorry for these guys, their hearts are in the right place... Almost. <br /><br />The smugness is sure to take a hit, and the first two months of these babies in the home would make a reality show that I WOULD watch.!<br /><br />-Mommy of twoskoorbzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08557346999146372262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-56080443119845929182009-12-20T17:27:45.590-06:002009-12-20T17:27:45.590-06:00Yeah. I think you were a little biased what with t...Yeah. I think you were a little biased what with those being your kids and all. Call it a hunch. And let's face it. Poop is poop is poop. NOT something you want smeared all over the house.<br /><br />Sigh. They'll find out. Oh yes they will!Aunt Messyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07424781871244170075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-7232582278005184742009-12-20T17:02:54.993-06:002009-12-20T17:02:54.993-06:00"...baby poo is probably one of the nastiest ..."...baby poo is probably one of the nastiest substances known to the universe..."<br /><br />That's not necessarily true. My wife breast fed our kids, and the poop was slightly sulpher-scented but really not too bad at all! See, all they have to do is breast feed those twins and that solves...<br /><br />Um! Oh!<br /><br />Never mind. They'll just have to swim in foul-smelling baby shit. Hehehe...Schuyler =^oo^=https://www.blogger.com/profile/05022527448487356922noreply@blogger.com