tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post4074248199228802580..comments2023-10-10T03:23:44.471-05:00Comments on SHADDAP!: SHADDAP!Aunt Messyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07424781871244170075noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-15612081509099907012010-03-02T20:18:04.489-06:002010-03-02T20:18:04.489-06:00Mermaid, sorry so late in answering. I hope you co...Mermaid, sorry so late in answering. I hope you come back and read this...<br /><br />The photo is of an arbutus stump that's been half pulled up by a storm so that the roots have been exposed to the air for awhile. Pretty, eh?<br /><br />The third child is going to have to wait until we get back from the coast next week. I had no idea how hard it is to get a male kitten! They seem to be pretty scarce right now!Aunt Messyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07424781871244170075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-6362339065903096452010-02-24T20:36:05.953-06:002010-02-24T20:36:05.953-06:00A) What's the subject of your photo?
B) Do yo...A) What's the subject of your photo?<br /><br />B) Do you have a third child yet?Mermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17583754215885030959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-52029088701454459152010-02-22T14:50:47.588-06:002010-02-22T14:50:47.588-06:00I never feel the need to explain when people ask w...I never feel the need to explain when people ask why I'm not in contact with my family. If they insist, I just tell them, "It's a long story and you don't want to hear it. How about them Bears, eh?"<br /><br />Generally that suffices to shut them up. I don't want to be rude on the one hand, but on the other, I would NEVER ask someone a question that personal. It's rude.<br /><br />All the LW needs to do is tell her sister to stop bringing it up...ONCE. If she does it again, then all the LW needs to do is hang up the phone. No conversation, nothing. If her "sister" wants to act like a toddler, then she can be treated like one.Aunt Messyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07424781871244170075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-58402646195139764802010-02-22T12:56:46.444-06:002010-02-22T12:56:46.444-06:00I definitely disagree with all the posters who say...I definitely disagree with all the posters who say the first LW "owes" the Former Baby Sister an explanation. FBS won't believe it and will make her feel even more stupid than her mother made her feel. There's is NOTHING wrong with cutting off a person who harms you, even if that person used to be related to you.CoolOnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12220187158350943016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-60202884748407891532010-02-21T15:53:35.313-06:002010-02-21T15:53:35.313-06:00You're right, Schuyler. It IS in the delivery....You're right, Schuyler. It IS in the delivery. I must be good at it because if I'm driven to use it, no one challenges me on the point. <br /><br />I always feel like I'm banging my head on a wall when people write to ask if or how they should talk to a sibling/significant other/parent/in-law, etc. What is that? They're family (or practically family) and people are scared to tell them what's wrong? Must be some shitty family, then!<br /><br />Being blunt is a BLESSING, people! The people who love you can take it, and those that don't love you - well, who the heck cares what they think?<br /><br />Yeesh.Aunt Messyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07424781871244170075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-51843339642216985942010-02-20T10:14:06.176-06:002010-02-20T10:14:06.176-06:00#3 is may pick of the week. A mild response in my...#3 is may pick of the week. A mild response in my blog, but my favorite example of parents climbing aboard their failboat.<br /><br />My boys all asked if I smoked pot. There are a million ways to answer, but only one is the correct way: "yes." When they started making the whining noises about my hypocritical thinking I reminded the, that:<br /><br />a: It was as illegal for me then as it is for them now.<br />b: I stopped at about 22 - just never liked it casually and had no desire to be a stoner.<br />c: My favorite line as a parent: "I knew then what I knew then so I did what I did. Now I know better, so I do better. Learn from that."<br /><br />These kids are young and stupid, that's all. I mean really - a tiger smoking a joint? Please. Tiger? Great. Joint? Great! Tiger/joint? What kind of fuckbrained cheese dick gets that?<br /><br />I so much confuse.<br /><br />I liked your take on #1 Messy - the sister is the easier of the two evils she has to deal with, but the more apparent and most immediately damaging, and this gal isn't sticking to her guns and firing the right ammunition. True, some people just won't take "go fuck yourself" for an answer, but hey - it's all in the delivery, right?Schuyler =^oo^=https://www.blogger.com/profile/05022527448487356922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-43897560119097143342010-02-20T04:39:36.681-06:002010-02-20T04:39:36.681-06:00Aunt Messy,
"Oh, you're not a blonde? W...Aunt Messy, <br /><br />"Oh, you're not a blonde? Well darling, what makes you think you were the only one?"<br /><br />That was classic! You are right on, as always, with all of the letters. <br /><br />Enjoy the weather!<br /><br />BellaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-85646727282018550982010-02-19T22:50:03.882-06:002010-02-19T22:50:03.882-06:00Hi Messy, good comments as usual. I particularly ...Hi Messy, good comments as usual. I particularly liked your poetics of insults in your response to LW1 --great!<br /><br />Today's photo is truly amazing. It's wood, but it's water, it's clouds with faces in it, and so many other things.... Thanks you for conveying to us what your artist's eyes are seeing...Katihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05645682203535768013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-53094588029672720142010-02-19T21:49:53.455-06:002010-02-19T21:49:53.455-06:00Messy, I promise that if I ever see your skirt acc...Messy, I promise that if I ever see your skirt accidentally tucked into your panties or hose, or you blouse, etc., I'll tell you. Will you be terribly disappointed if I enjoy the view a bit first, though? That's the naughty side of me coming out, but, trust me, later, you know, after I thought about it, I'd feel all guilty and stuff. ;-)<br /><br />Seriously, though, good, snarky, wondrously smack-downish responses!<br /><br />Good cheer!<br />Smag :-)SmagBoy1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06579694369460538262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-12786524834657997912010-02-19T21:35:16.517-06:002010-02-19T21:35:16.517-06:00Thanks, Mermaid.
I have to say (and you know thi...Thanks, Mermaid. <br /><br />I have to say (and you know this, too), that there comes a point when you can sit down and give the proverbial total stranger chapter and verse on all the nastiness and it has no real effect. It becomes distant, almost as if it happened to someone else. It's strange.<br /><br /> In a sense, you guys ( and you know who you are) have given me that, because I can write it down and post it, and you don't judge. Whether you know it or not, you've all helped me get to that point. Thank you. <br /><br />However, the LW isn't there yet. I can't help but think that she needs to channel a little anger there. The sister, whether she knows it or not, is abusing her all over again, and she needs to be told to bugger off. <br /><br />When did it become "wrong" to get angry, especially when, as in the LWs case, she has every right to be furious? How did we get to a point where we're not supposed to express that? It's not harmful to get bloody mad - in fact, it can save you. I wouldn't see anything unusual or odd if the LW simply tossed out an expletive and hung up on the little snot the next time she called.Aunt Messyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07424781871244170075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-64192371087775854302010-02-19T21:20:32.808-06:002010-02-19T21:20:32.808-06:00p.s. Bravo, as always. ;)p.s. Bravo, as always. ;)Mermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17583754215885030959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8625154341780348225.post-75480774169846133292010-02-19T21:19:31.783-06:002010-02-19T21:19:31.783-06:00It's been speculated that LW#1 is "protec...It's been speculated that LW#1 is "protecting" the mother by not talking to the sister. What happened to protecting HERSELF?<br /><br />A) The little sister has been in CONSTANT CONTACT with the mother. So she's heard her side of the story for years.<br /><br />B) The little sister is a STRANGER to her. Would you feel comfortable sitting down with a total stranger and dredging up the most painful part of your childhood? If you've ever had that fleeting look of pity and horror cross over someone's face, you'd know what I mean.<br /><br />The little sister won't believe her, because it's not in her best interest to. She'll simply go back to mommy and the other sibling(s) and they can all talk about what a bitter, jealous, angry, unforgiving wretch the LW is at all their "family" gatherings.<br /><br />I'd rather drink lye than give them the satisfaction.Mermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17583754215885030959noreply@blogger.com